In today’s society it is critically important for a boy to turn into a man by showing he can work and provide not only for himself, but for any occasion save it be for a mate. I was single for a good portion of my adult life and I worked very hard in those years. As some of my readers know I was a cocaine addict for a few years and I had a serious problem of self worth and I did not esteem myself very well. I needed to find ways to build my self worth and one of those things was to work. It does a man good to work.
One of the biggest problems men have today is to deal with a mother that wants to spoil their boys, it is like neutering boys so they do not feel like they have any responsibility to themselves or others. They do not pull their own weight and it seems to be that they lean on mommy too much for their own good.
I have been on both sides as an employee as well as being an employer. It is very difficult to find boys that have good work habits and that have a sense of integrity in the way they work. I believe that this is in part due to the high rate of divorces as well as how gloomy the future is to the young. Mothers work hard all day and come home and can be too tired to discipline the boys the way they need to be disciplined. That does not necessarily mean discipline them as far as do this and do that, but to inspire them to be disciplined by choosing work over play.
It means what it says and that is to be self disciplined in themselves by not being a burden to anyone. It means to hold themselves accountable and not negatively affect others. Here are a few quotes I found that could be of use to those young men that are searching for their manhood.
“Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men”
― Elisabeth Elliot, The Mark of a Man
“There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is ‘Where am I going?’ and the second is ‘Who will go with me?’
If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.”
― Sam Keen, Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man
“He understood well enough how a man with a choice between pride and responsibility will almost always choose pride–if responsibility robs him of his manhood.”
― Stephen King, The Running Man
There is a real need for boys to step up to the plate because our country needs leaders that are willing to be responsible for themselves as well as their parents well- being especially when they are in their golden years and the cost associated with retirement. It does not help matters when the media and the progressives want to have boys as well as men shirk their responsibilities by being lazy and slothful. Mothers and wives please give your spouse the support he needs to thwart off complacency, laziness, and timidness. It is hard enough to make marriages work let alone dealing with wayward children that are behind in their evolution for growth and maturity.
Slothfulness in men and boys is counter-productive and it inhabits a man’s natural evolution to be independent and resolute in problem solving. Given experience in life and problem solving a man may grow up to match the full measure of his creation and is able to reach unattainable heights by average people. He becomes healthy in body, mind, and Spirit!
Here are a couple of scriptures to back the Lord’s commandment for men:2 Thessalonians 3:10 “If a man will not work, he shall not eat.” and unfortunately I experienced two step sons that did not want to work and that they would rather steal to get what they wanted, that marriage ended in divorce because I did not have the support of my wife and that I felt insignificant and neutered as a man. Here is another scripture that pertains to that very topic. Ephesians 4:28 ” He who have been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his hands, that he may have something to share with thosse in need.
Basically sons as well as men end up being spoiled and selfish because they have nothing to give, they want it to be given to them. America was built on hard work and men were men and women were women. Roles were not scrambled like they are today. Whatever the case, please do the men in your life the favor by exercising tough love so they can grow up to be the kind of men that will make you proud of them! It is your responsibility to prepare boys to meet the demands of society by being good providers for their families.
Post Written by:
Terrance W. Norton,
Humanitarian Mentor/Orator/ Writer